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#friendship_Advice:reddit.com · channel c2_1mf

The chat channel attached to r/friendship ran for 895 days before Reddit removed chat channels entirely. This is the surviving record: 228,017 messages from 8,004 people.

8 Jun 2023opened18 Nov 2025last message
895 days · 256.2 msg/day
228,017Messages
8,004People
4,004Images
10,168Reactions
12,253Replies
5,490Deleted

Every day the room was open

The room held its activity to the end.

Peak was 6,156 messages on 29 Dec 2023. Colour marks activity: solid is a busy day, grey is a quiet one.

8 Jun 202318 Nov 2025
busiest days middling quiet

What was actually being said

The room's own vocabulary

These are the words this channel used far more than the rest of the archive did — the in-jokes, names and shorthand that only make sense if you were in here. Median message length: 21 characters.

TermUses
disasteri'm9,376
specific9,513
i'm5,934
lol4,859
don't4,381
hi4,660
advice3,167
it's3,849
need3,740
hey3,412
feel2,993
friends2,747
MeasureValue
Median message length21
90th percentile69
Total words708,073
Messages asking a question8.8%

Messages by hour, UTC

When the room was awake

A 2.7 to 1 swing between the busiest and quietest hour — mostly one region, with a scattering elsewhere.

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Arrivals, departures and bans, by month

July is the crossover

July is the month it started losing people faster than it gained them.

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10,168 reactions

How the room responded

upvote
2,861
joy
2,797
care
2,406
vq7naqwfa7081.gif
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wave
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rage
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thumbs_down
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1,052 stickers

And what it sent instead of words

snoo_joy244snoo_simple_smile121snoo_dealwithit76snoo_shrug63snoo_facepalm54snoo_cry54snoo_sad43snoo_smile40partyparrot38snoo_trollface38

Reddit's chat reaction and sticker sets were removed with the feature. These are preserved copies.

Who was in here

8,004 people passed through. A handful carried it.

The top poster sent 5,567 messages. Below them the curve collapses: 2,323 people posted once and never came back.

ParticipantMessagesShare
Faerie_Lover5,5672.4%
[deleted]5,1672.3%
[deleted]4,4061.9%
ChocoMaister3,7021.6%
[deleted]3,4251.5%
silvereyeshadow3,2511.4%
Ben10-fan-5252,4691.1%
Total_Stop47872,1811.0%
ASHRo232,0470.9%
Little_Uchiha2,0100.9%
void_w4lker2,0050.9%
jade-lex1,9490.9%

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18 Nov 2025 · the end of the log

The last thing anyone said here

No announcement, no goodbye. The archive simply stops. Nobody in this conversation knew it was the last one.

ttop732u/raymainlander why are you even in here if you dont expect people to come for advice. You can easily leave 🤷
ttop732It takes nothing to not be a di ckhead
raymainlanderI'm just kidding. Chill.
ttop732Noone is laughing you are the comedian boo'd off the stage
raymainlanderAll right. Now chill 🥱
ttop732They came and spilled their feelings out for advice from strangers and you wanna talk abt yapping. Its real easy to be that pos on a subreddit
ttop732Karma don't forget tho
raymainlanderI see
raymainlanderI didnt want to make a post but i found out a really good friend (A) of mine felt like I ruined her fun at a concert. So backstory, a while back we went to an arcade as a group, suddenly she dissapears from our line of sight and no one seemed to know where she went (we’re all mid-late 20s) I got concerned about her safety and got anxious bc maybe she got lost bc granted thats how i would feel, so I call her and come to find out she decided to dissapear on her own bc she likes to do that. Mind you without informing anyone. I get home and we have a chat and I told her I’d get anxious if she did that in terms of safety and in a group setting it would be nice if she informed someone if she was gonna dissapear but I also told her if it was just me and her at an event, i wouldnt like it if she dissapeared on me bc I would get anxious since we’re both women alone at a random place we dont know and I wouldnt know where she went bc she wouldnt warn me. But anyways, fast forward, we go to a concert as a group. She tells me verbatim “I wouldve loved to go into the moshpit but my legs hurt from working out” I’m like okay thats fine. I wasnt one to go in myself. I was then told by my best friend (B) that (A) didnt have fun at the concert bc she couldnt go into the moshpit bc of ME getting anxious of her leaving my side. So she lied to me. That was never the case of me NEEDING her with me, it was more so of hey if ure going to dissapear let someone know..? And if she wanted to she could, bc I was with another girl, we were in a group not alone. And the venue was tiny..I know shes not gonna get sucked into the void…she couldve just said “hey im going in” and went in..? I wouldnt care? She was always in my line of sight so she couldve just gone regardless? My concern was hey just dont dissapear without informing your friends bc safety not stay by me im clingy. My best friend told her that I was probably just thinking about safety concerns but friend B was adamant that it wasnt and that she doesnt need anyone to feel concerned for her bc she can “take care of herself” I just feel so taken aback bc I was just being a good friend with good intentions and that backfired? I don’t know what to do, I was told to not say anything by my best friend but now I can’t really look at friend A the same. Any advice? At least to internally deal with this? Sorry if this is too long
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